The Heartbeats and Heartache of Miscarriage

We open our hearts for a special feature on miscarriage…


I thought I would struggle to get pregnant. I have a history of ‘bad smears’ and being at an age medicine would consider ‘past the easy stage’ (35). However, I was blessed to be one of the lucky ones, and nine months later was greeted with the most wonderful little boy.

The Miscarriage Association

But, as any Mother knows, along the way you face your fears. There’s the fear of the 12 week scan, the 20 week scan, the tests and all kinds of scare stories. You basically spend your nine months hoping, praying, longing for a healthy baby. Heartbreakingly, it is just a small glimpse of what it must be like to go through this continually, for the many women who have suffered baby loss.

Sadly, the Miscarriage Association suggest that one in four pregnancies is affected by miscarriage. That’s an awful lot of heartache for an awful lot of people.

So, what can we do? Well, I think talking to each other, letting our friends know we are there for them, and being ready to listen is all we can do. Meanwhile, celebrities that come forward about their experiences are bringing much needed light to the matter. Lily Allen, Amanda Holden, Gwyneth Paltrow and most recently The Zuckerberg’s all publicly shared their loss too, and I salute them for it.

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First Heartbeats

Yet, it’s not just celebs though. I came across a beautiful documentary called ‘First Heartbeat’ which follows one couple’s intimate and emotional journey of recurrent miscarriages over a two-year period (follow her at twitter). Tune in – it airs on 15 October (TLC at 10pm) and is well worth watching.

As a final thought on the matter, what do you say to someone who is going through the heartache of babyloss? Well, I looked at several websites and expert opinions and here’s what they advised saying;

  • I’m so sorry for your loss, your pain, grief and sadness
  • Please know, it’s not your fault
  • It’s ok to grieve
  • I’m sorry I don’t know what to say, other than I’m here for you
  • I know you must be hurting, I’m here to listen

To understand more about the subject, or for more information, please visit The Miscarriage Association
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